When it comes to relationships and people, I rely on intuition a lot. I have these…what my friend calls “gut feelings”. I can’t explain it using reason or logic, but my intuition has proven to be pretty reliable. Maybe my subconscious is sharper than me. The problem with this is when I try to explain it to people, it doesn’t sound very credible. “I just have a really bad feeling about this” isn’t exactly convincing evidence.

I also tend to pay a lot of attention to body language. How they act, their facial expressions, and their tone of voice, which I think is the more important part of the message. This means that sometimes when I’m telling my friends about what happened, I can’t remember exactly what the person said, but I remember how they said it. I register this information on an implicit level too. I can tell you the outcome, but I can’t tell you how I got to the outcome. For example, I can tell when someone’s faking it, but I can’t tell you what they did to reveal that they are. I just kind of…sense it. Which of course, is also not very convincing.

One of my best friends is almost the complete opposite. She’s an English major, and she doesn’t look at people while conversing. She relies heavily on the spoken word, and that’s what she depends on when assessing or analyzing a situation. She also doesn’t have any sort of female intuition or gut feelings. Which means she’s much more logical and she’s very convincing.

I wonder if people are one or the other, or mostly in between and we’re just outliers.

Maybe I don’t take the words so seriously because I know people lie.